Dr. Arthur Lavin returns to the podcast and offers practical advice on parent-child conflict and problem solving strategies. Tantrums are a teaching opportunity where children learn to solve the problem and parents are the guides.
Dr. Lavin shares highlights from his book “Who’s the Boss: Moving Families from Conflict to Collaboration” that he authored with colleague Susan Glaser and presents a framework to tackle tantrums and meltdowns
Let’s listen to this primer for parents and pediatric providers from Dr. Lavin!
[00:01 – 03:57] Opening Segment
- Let’s welcome back, Dr. Arthur Lavin
- Let’s all be cautious for a few more months
- Listen to Arthur’s message
[03:58 – 14:09] Teaching Children to Solve Problems
- How Arthur turned a 12-year collab into a book
- He did it with his colleague
- Teaching children to solve their problems
- Why Arthur likes “neutral questions”
[14:10 – 24:04] Like A Computer Freezing
- Understand tantrums better with this analogy
- How to handle tantrums better
- Arthur talks about anger flares among adults
[24:05 – 35:40] The Line of Concern
- The alternative to listening and problem solving
- Arthur shares a sneak peek about his next book
- Listen to his message to his resident self
[35:41 – 41:38] Closing Segment
- Finals takeaways
- Teach children to solve problems themselves
- Who will find the solution, the parent or the child?
- Adopting a neutral tone
- Structuring conversations better
- The approach with 100% success rate
- Children create the consequences, aside from solutions
- Tantrums are like computers freezing
- Teen tantrums are more complicated
Tweetable Quotes:
“The secret to success always lies in finding some way to create a situation or an understanding or a stance freely whereas the child [has] the freedom and the ingenuity and the creativity to solve that problem themselves .” – Dr. Arthur Lavin
“Listen to that voice, stay close to that voice, and stay true to that voice.” – Dr. Arthur Lavin
Resources Mentioned:
- Pediatric Meltdown episode 9: School Struggles ADHD or is it?
- Arthur’s books
- Who’s the Boss
- Baby and Toddler Sleep Solutions For Dummies
Email [email protected] to connect with Arthur and visit https://www.advancedped.com/staff/ to learn more about his space.
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